When is the right time to bring up problems you’re experiencing?
Most people wait until they’re emotional—frustrated, upset, or downright furious—before addressing an issue. But here’s the truth: that’s the worst time to talk.
At the same time, the most common alternative is just as harmful—avoiding the conversation altogether.
People tend to sweep problems under the rug, thinking they’ve disappeared just because emotions have cooled down. But the problem hasn’t gone anywhere; it’s just lying dormant, waiting to resurface.
This was exactly the case with the King of Egypt. When the plagues hit, he was desperate. He begged Moses to pray to God to remove them, promising to let the people go. But the moment the plague was lifted, he went right back to his old ways.
“But when the king saw that they were free of the frogs, he became stubborn again. He did not listen to Moses and Aaron, just as the Lord had said.” (Exodus 8:15 NCV)
Why do we do this?
Because we’re selfish. We want our way. We desire things that aren’t good for us. We’re willing to change only when we’re sufficiently disturbed—but as soon as the pain is gone, we slip right back into our old habits.
So, what should we do instead?
If a problem keeps surfacing or remains unresolved, don’t ignore it. Find a calm time to talk about it. Set a time and stick to it. This is the first mistake - most don’t set a time.
Ask an honest question: What is my responsibility in this problem?
Ask another question: What is their responsibility in this problem?
Be real. Be honest. Be humble.
Use the 5-minute rule—just like you would in a professional setting. Allow each person 5-10 minutes to speak without interruption.
Then, respond and share your feelings. Grade the intensity of it all on a 1-10 scale. It may be a one for you, but maybe a ten for them. Be empathetic.
Brainstorm success options—even the ridiculous ones. Pick one and commit to trying it. A week later, check in. Did it work? What needs adjusting? Keep working through it.
The process of overcoming sin, mistakes, and conflict boils down to six simple steps:
1. Confess (acknowledge the problem)
2. Repent (commit to real change)
3. Seek Forgiveness (be genuine, not just apologetic)
4. Show Restitution (make things right—whether with kindness, patience, money, or effort)
5. Work on Restoration (rebuild what was broken)
6. Enjoy Reconciliation (true, lasting peace through real forgivness)
Why work on problems and not ignore them?
Because we love God. Because we want to honor Him. Because we love others as much as we love ourselves, and we desire peace, freedom, and unity.
LORD, help us to confront the real issues in our lives with love.
In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen. ♥️
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